A Quick Update

So I was offered a teaching job in Korea but I turned it down. The money was good but I read a lot of mixed reviews about the school. Plus, I don't  really think I would be a great teacher, considering I hate public speaking and it would just be a really stressful job to me. I've been a student long enough to see what they go through and I think those kids would eat me alive lol.

Not only that, I've heard the horror stories about not passing the training week and then having to pay your own way back home before the E-2 visa expires. Yeaaaaah, I'll be damned if I go through that and stress my hubby out, who would be all the way in Kunsan by the way. I wouldn't even get to see him much, which is the whole reason why I considered teaching in Korea in the first place. I will just suck it up with the one year tour and live at home with the parents. I will still be collecting BAH and if I get a job on top of that then I'm pretty much set and living more than comfortably.

I've been so stressed this week because my husband told me he had been thinking of doing the 2 year tour and I was hysterical. His reasoning for wanting to do it was pretty much financial: he'd be making bank.

I tried to explain to him that other than money, where are the positives for me? In the end, he finally realized not through talking to me but his OTHER friends, that I would suffer. YA DON'T SAY? And they pretty much gave the same exact reasons I did, which pissed me off. I wish there was a way I could get through to that man but every time we argue he says he doesn't like to listen to me because I'm "annoying" meaning I cry a lot when I'm overwhelmed and don't like the idea.

Um, HELLO?! He was just talking about taking a 2 year tour!!!! I would not see him for 2 freaking years!!!! Sure, I'd get to visit him for a couple weeks at a time every few months but it's still 2 years! That's two birthdays, two Christmases, two everything missed. And I had wanted to start a family with him but it doesn't look like that is happening this year.

It really is depressing and at times I feel like I have no control over what happens to my marriage because the military always gets in between us. The military has always been number one. It is one of the careers that you have to place before family and I've been trying to deal with it. It's just hard. It's not for everyone, that's for sure. So ladies, THINK REALLY HARD before getting involved with a military man. There are perks, but you're pretty much living the "single but married" life.

It's Been a While.....

Happy New Year! I know I haven't blogged in almost a year but I figured now is the best time to start up again since I have some exciting news! Hubby and I are moving out of Potato Land after  being here almost 4 years. He will be stationed in Kunsan Korea for a year, however it is an unaccompanied tour :(

I will be moving back to Colorado and living with the family while I collect BAH since it's more than what I am making at my current job. I will still get to visit hubs in South Korea twice and then we will be going to Hawaii for his mid tour, so I am trying to stay positive, though it's difficult because he just got back from a deployment in October.

And yes, I know I can't really complain since that is his career and I knew what I was getting myself into prior to marrying him, blah, blah, blah but that doesn't mean I'm not allowed to have emotions anymore dammit!

Anyway, I will try to blog more, as I will be unemployed again in about three months and I'm pretty sure I'll be bored out of my mind like the last time I was unemployed lol. I'll try to get a part time gig while I'm waiting for my husband to get his follow on orders. He was denied his follow on request because of his rank, so if he makes rank in January or May hopefully we will be able to get Japan or Europe afterwards. I feel like I've been in a hole in Idaho for quite some time. I've been working and just going through the motions and FINALLY I get to do what I've wanted to do my whole life, which is travel!!!! Yay!!

ALSO, David and I are finally having our dream wedding/vow renewal ceremony on March 29, 2014! I pretty much have the venue paid off, my dress, the tux, the rings and favors all ready so it hasn't been as stressful planning the second time around (the first wedding I tried to plan when we first got married got cancelled due to money constraints) but now we finally get to do it for real! Lol.

It's going to be on the San Diego Hornblower ship with about 30 guests and I have a wedding coordinator who takes care of all the details so I don't have to worry about all that crap. I guess that is just a brief summary of what's been going on in my life. I will blog more as it gets closer to our moving date which is on April 22 when we will be out processing and trying to get all our shit out the house, cleaning and all that crap. Should be fun. Let the 2014 journey begin.