A Quick Update

So I was offered a teaching job in Korea but I turned it down. The money was good but I read a lot of mixed reviews about the school. Plus, I don't  really think I would be a great teacher, considering I hate public speaking and it would just be a really stressful job to me. I've been a student long enough to see what they go through and I think those kids would eat me alive lol.

Not only that, I've heard the horror stories about not passing the training week and then having to pay your own way back home before the E-2 visa expires. Yeaaaaah, I'll be damned if I go through that and stress my hubby out, who would be all the way in Kunsan by the way. I wouldn't even get to see him much, which is the whole reason why I considered teaching in Korea in the first place. I will just suck it up with the one year tour and live at home with the parents. I will still be collecting BAH and if I get a job on top of that then I'm pretty much set and living more than comfortably.

I've been so stressed this week because my husband told me he had been thinking of doing the 2 year tour and I was hysterical. His reasoning for wanting to do it was pretty much financial: he'd be making bank.

I tried to explain to him that other than money, where are the positives for me? In the end, he finally realized not through talking to me but his OTHER friends, that I would suffer. YA DON'T SAY? And they pretty much gave the same exact reasons I did, which pissed me off. I wish there was a way I could get through to that man but every time we argue he says he doesn't like to listen to me because I'm "annoying" meaning I cry a lot when I'm overwhelmed and don't like the idea.

Um, HELLO?! He was just talking about taking a 2 year tour!!!! I would not see him for 2 freaking years!!!! Sure, I'd get to visit him for a couple weeks at a time every few months but it's still 2 years! That's two birthdays, two Christmases, two everything missed. And I had wanted to start a family with him but it doesn't look like that is happening this year.

It really is depressing and at times I feel like I have no control over what happens to my marriage because the military always gets in between us. The military has always been number one. It is one of the careers that you have to place before family and I've been trying to deal with it. It's just hard. It's not for everyone, that's for sure. So ladies, THINK REALLY HARD before getting involved with a military man. There are perks, but you're pretty much living the "single but married" life.